Wednesday, 5 December 2012

Assistants in Focus Series 7 – Nonbelieving Husband

Many assistants have struggled to maintain a balance between marriage and the work of God.
I know that the greatest pleasure of a person who serves God is to be at church, but if you do not act with wisdom you will never be able to gain your nonbelieving husband for Jesus.
If you find yourself in this situation you cannot go to the church every day and leave your husband alone at home.
Many have done this and have caused many problems in their marriage, always claiming that her husband is not of faith and therefore does not understand her, in fact wanting to disrupt her spiritual life.
That may happen, but don’t you think as a woman of God, you should give a good testimony and show that you also care about him?
Perhaps you still have not been able to bring your husband to church because he hasn’t seen a testimony on your part, you leave him alone every night and go to church, perhaps not preparing food for him nor take good care of his things, there is no time for dialogue nor to give attention to one another and therefore your marriage is cold and there are always arguments.
Another thing you should consider is Sundays, of course the first fruits are of God on Sunday morning and you should seek your Lord, but what about the rest of the day?
You stay the entire day at church on Sunday and leave your husband having lunch and stay the entire day alone?
You believe this is fair and pleases God? Of course not, you have to be wise wife, balanced, we do not do the work of God only when we are at church, we also do it inside our home, and perhaps you say, "but I've been a dedicated assistant and exemplary at church", I believe in that, but at home have you been this way also?
Of course when the husband is an assistant and is in the same faith you have more freedom to be in church because he will be with you, otherwise you will have to make certain sacrifices.
Just one more thing, if your husband is not an assistant, but he goes to church and you have also acted this way, thinking; "he understands, he is of faith," it is still wrong, you should pay attention to your husband and not leave him abandoned and alone all day, month after month, if it were the opposite would you like it?
“Wives, likewise, be submissive to your own husbands, that even if some do not obey the word, they, without a word, may be won by the conduct of their wives, when they observe your chaste conduct accompanied by fear.” 1 Peter 3:1-2
Task: You will make a schedule of the days you go to church and the days that you will stay at home with your husband. The same thing on Sundays, give your all in the morning, then go have lunch with your husband and stay the afternoon with him. That will please God and will change your marriage a lot and even your husband.
Share your experience with us!


Anonymous said...

What happens when you are dating or single assistant what should you do? If you are a single adult living alone? If you live with your family.

Thank you

Boitumelo said...

Wow, what wonderful advice.A colleague of mine who is a married woman told me of how her husband had an affair because she was neglecting him and always at church. It took that to make her see that she had left a gap in her marriage.Our testimony carries more weight than what we know and say. This series is a blessing as we are learning about many things we wouldn't normally be taught. Thank you

Briony Bangura said...

Hello Mrs Tania,

I do not have a husband so when I was reading this I was thinking about my mother. It's very true that to serve God is not only within the church. This blog helped me to think about how my mum feels when I'm not around... it is very important that I am balanced to win her over for Jesus. I am looking forward to doing the task above and working towards a change.

God Bless you.

Lerato Maidi said...

good day.
This is so true, even for us the single ladies. The testimony we give at home says a lot about us. If we leave without having helped at home in the name of 'going to church', it still serves as a bad testimony especially if our family is not in the church. We cannot continue doing this and keep our families wondering about our whereabouts, because sometimes it is even hard for them to believe we were still at church. So we need to be good examples either way. Thank you

Post a Comment

Related Posts Plugin for WordPress, Blogger...