Tuesday, 15 November 2011

Christian Dating Series 10 - What can and can't we do?

"I would like to know what is allowed when dating as a Christian, what can and can't be done? Until where can we go? "

What determines the limits of your relationship when dating is your fear of God, it's that fear and respect that determines how far you can go and will go.

The bible is very clear in this matter:

"You say, “I am allowed to do anything”—but not everything is good for you. And even though “I am allowed to do anything,” I must not become a slave to anything." (1 Corinthians 6:12 NLT)

If you notice that certain actions or situations conduce you to sin, or can make you fall into sin, then it's better to flee from them and avoid them.

When I was dating, the pastor taught that couples should date with the bible in between them. But you make ask, what does that mean? Should I take a bible with me every time I'm out on a date with my boyfriend?

No, what the pastor was trying to say with that was that every time your with your partner you can't forget about the Word of God or its teachings, so that your actions won't displease God, and that way your fear and respect for Him would be the brakes.

But with that being said, I can also give you a few advice so that you're not caught in temptation:

- avoid being in isolated places with no one around you. I remember that I would hang out with Joaquim in the living room of my house, and my sister and mother were always around, having a "guardian" is always a good idea.

- kissing for long periods of time is dangerous, it's better to avoid.

- never seclude yourselves in dark places

-never caress each others bodies

- respect he curfew your parents give you

- when going out, always choose publics places with lots of people around, don't seclude yourselves in private places alone.

If you'd like to add to this list, feel free to leave your comments below.

4 comments:

Anonymous said...

Tania, what do you do when you own your own house and a bit mature? Am not teenager anymore do the same house rules apply for an adult? I mean house visits and touching and stuff? As adults we can have rules of not going further?
Love you, so much!

Natania Robala said...

I would like to add: - Never press your body against him/her (when hugging), never sit on his lap (for girls)

Moses Lusaaka said...

...and if its a kiss, it should not be for more than 5 seconds

Anonymous said...

i learnt from a pastors wife never to wear reviling clothes because you may be comfortable but only God to help the thoughts in the guy's mind, so help him too by not makin him sin or eles you'll both end up sinning. God bless

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