Hi dears, is everything okay? Let’s think if we have been aware of these emotions and valued them. How is your child’s emotional health? Let’s begin thinking about three reasons why parents must be concern about raising an emotionally healthy child:
1. Our emotions determine the quality and meaning of our life.
2. Our emotions influence each part of our life.
3. Our emotions help us to define our values.
Therefore, we can confirm that success or failure in life depend on our emotional condition. Children are not different; they don’t know yet how to separate intelligence from emotion.
Parents must remember that feelings are related to the value we give to things or people. Whatever thing that for parents doesn’t mean much, for a child it might have a special value. For instance, a conversation, a friend, a pet, a bike, a toy, a trip that didn’t go right, etc. all of these can have a lot of value for a child. Parents who play their roles with this conscience never overlook a child’s tears. I saw boys and girls mourning inconsolably because of a dog that was hit by a car; others because they lost a ball and others because of a kite taken away by the wind. How do parents should react before the tears of a child, who cries because of something that for an adult is considered to be “banal”?
Never force your children to restrain their emotions, swallowing their tears and rejecting their feelings. Disqualifying the emotions of a child can produce a trauma, making them close up and never show their feelings again. That is one of the reasons why many adults have difficulties expressing their emotions. Do you respect your child’s emotions?
I saw people who can notice every feeling and expression in other people’s children, but they cannot see anything in their children. Be aware of your reactions; children are all different. What doesn’t make any difference to one, can make all the difference to the other! Be sensible to understand in every second his/her needs and let the child be whoever he/she is. Do not restrain your child. Sooner or later you might regret it because they will show undesirable behaviors that you will not be pleased with.
We must not mock children, to the point of making them think that whatever they say doesn’t have any value. When you behave this way you are contributing to raise an insecure and closed up adult. Many people think that a good behavior is of a quiet and noiseless child, when in general this kind of behaviour comes from an oppressed and depressed children. Of course not all of them, but you must analyse yourself, and see what kind of mother you have been to the point of not letting your child be whoever he/she wants to be.
This is also useful for those who are not mothers but work with children, because we should know how to deal with all of them; valuing them, loving them, making them feel the most special ones in this world.
If you went through a similar experience or this post helped you, leave your comment bellow.
Sweet kisses.Cátia Rubim