Monday, 17 June 2013

Beauty stain Series - Indiscretion



Today I will talk about Ms. Indiscreet, she is a beautiful woman, a hard worker, super kind, affectionate and likes to help everyone, but we have a little problem...
Indiscretion! Gee what a shame!
"You should’ve seen what I saw over at Elizabeth’s house, you should’ve seen the amount of shoes she has, you cannot even get in the closet, she has all colors and styles, how exaggerating!"
This is an example of comments that cause a big stain on Ms. Indiscreet!
Many qualities to attract the admiration of people, but a stain will ruin everything and dulls all our beauty.

She always mentions what is not to be said, constantly reveals what does not concern her.
Many women do it to appear, that's right, she was entrusted with something, having access to certain information and environments, but the thirst to appear before others and reveal what she is living and what she knows is stronger than her, doing it even though she is exposing the lives of others.
She enjoys being aware of everything, but at the same time she does not know when to put herself in her place, she does not think before speaking, nor notices who is nearby.
When we see an indiscreet woman, we feel shame, we feel uncomfortable to have heard what she said, but unfortunately the person does not see it.
Being indiscreet is not respecting your privacy or that of others, when you reveal intimate things about yourself, exposing the flaws and errors of your husband, speaking of what you saw or heard when you were living with someone else, you are being indiscreet.

“As a ring of gold in a swine’s snout, so is a lovely woman who lacks discretion.”
Proverbs 11:22

Imagine a beautiful and valuable jewel, when placed in the snout of a pig, it loses all its beauty, getting dirty and ugly, no one can even see that it is a jewel, a gold piece.
This is how an indiscreet woman is, she may have many qualities, but indiscretion makes everyone see her ugly, not to mention that you cannot trust her.
What about you, have you ever been indiscreet, or know someone like this who embarrassed you?
Share it with us, without being indiscreet, hahaha no need to mention names, these situations will help women identify whether or not they are indiscreet, examples always help!


20 comments:

LekgoleN Mwale said...

Being discreet I guess it comes naturally to us woman, as we like the attention, to be seen , to be heard and to be the top among our peers, so to be like that we turn to be indiscreet not realizing we are showing characteristics of the women of this world. Thank God for the holy Spirit who gives us self control, to control our tongue and our words.

Rosette said...

I was once really indiscreet, I had to know everything and I loved passing on the information later on. Today I see that, not only this is very ugly, but also it wasn't adding anything to my life, on the contrary. I thank God for helping me remove such a stain and it's a daily fight because our nature (flesh) loves indiscretion.

Brenda said...

I also was this way, and by being this way I pushed a lot of people out of my life and it wasn't helping my spiritual life. Through my time really seeking God for change it has help me remove that old self and I feel like a new person and others see the difference in me.

Diana Nkomo said...

This is something I'm truly fighting daily and honestly I have to say I avoid groups because women when we talk you can try but you see yourself jumping in and talking about things we were not supposed to.so I find other things to be busy with to avoid this weakness.

Chelcia Tavares said...

i had a friend like that , it is not like she use to do it on purpose, but as a friend o thought it was on my place to talk to her , and i did of course at first she didn't take it well but as she analyse herself she released that she had to do something about, and today she is more careful talking.

golda said...

This is so strong.Many times we women tend to speak more than what we should and sometimes not meaning to harm or to be cruel to someone.We want to be liked and sometimes seek attention in the wrong way.Your post has help me to introspect myself and remove stains that make me loose my quality as a woman of God,thank you Mrs Tania.

Lerato said...

My jaw dropped as I read this, hahahahahahahaa, because I am this woman. I suffer from oversharing information about my life and my past. I remeber I met a lady in a taxi, but the time we reached our destination that lady knew almost everything about my life. After I had parted from her, I was like 'omw what have I done?' I hoped not to see again because it was only after that I realised how bad my indescretion was! I'm still praying that I become discrete, its not easy but its doable!

Anna said...

If one examine yourself sincerely, the spirit of God will always reveals to us where we need to change. We should always strive to be useful instrument in the kingdom of God. And to watch what ever come out of my mouth. Thank you very much for the strong message Mrs

Anonymous said...

I find it hard to have friends that are girls because of this, yes in the church some have titles and are the worst gossipers.

Jasmine Ibikunle said...

My friend recently told me that I am not a discrete person. It even got to a point where I no longer understood meaning of being discrete. But I had to sit down and look at myself- even though I am a youth am I discrete? Because it happens a lot to me, in the services and around girls etc. I can be quite lady like but when it's the youth group I push aside discretion. A very ugly habit. Thank you for this post Ms Tania- it will help A LOT!!!

Jennifer V said...

One should really guard what you say. Cause it can have a negative or postive impact towards your salvation. Thank you Mrs.

Flor Sims said...

I have done this too. Its so true that you do not see yourself. When I meet someone like this I wish I can tell them , but unfortunately a person in this position does take comments like someone doesn't like her. If you,yourself do not see it. Well us around just try not to say much or nothing at all because you know it will be heard by many and in a totally different way that it happen. Ladies we are the only ones who can stop us from being indiscreet.

precious mguni said...

Being indiscret is a bad habit I also used be .Thanks to God for I seek his wisdom before I open my mouth, it is better to say nothing and be condemned of always quiet that to reveal confidential information about others and your self and also put yourself in that persons shoes and see if you would like it

Buhle said...

Hello Mrs Tania

I certainly have done some "over sharing". I didn't really know I was being indiscreet but after reading this blog...mmm...

I'm one who loves keeping things to myself; however when something really bothers me, I would just let it out! I have learnt to walk away or change the subject when those "episodes" come up.

Thanks for sharing this with us, it's very helpful :-)

Saheeda said...

I agree with Jasmine that sometimes in youth group we forget ourselves and can be very indiscrete.For me it was something I noticed in myself and in a lot of other women is the way we talk and laugh.sometimes its too loud and also attention seeking for wrong reasons e.g trying to get the attention of a guy.we need to make sure we are not the swine with the gold ring

monono mary matonzi said...

I was once an indiscreet person talking about the mistakes of my husband to my friends not look at myself but I Learn the hard way to change and I can tell you when I look at it now I was foolish. Mary Matonzi

Monicah said...

True that Mrs Tania. Indescretion degrades our value as women. We like to fit into crowds so we end up saying things we were not supposed to say, I guess this is one of our weakesses. But we can change that and not go according to the pattern of this world, we can avoid things, including people, who add up to us being indescrete, because you can be beautiful but if you are not descreete you have no value.

Anonymous said...

This is an eye opener because after reading this post I had to stop and analyse myself and wow...how i have been indiscreet, on many cases also about myself even if I say things to those who are close to me. As of now I will fight against this & be more watchful of what I say. Thank you for your posts Mrs Tania because through them you help us to change & grow to be man/woman of God :)
Mady

mmapitso hellen monama said...

Wow, this is me. I have have been indiscreet because I wanted attention or please others and I must say this has been affecting me very bad and I started praying about it,asking God to help me to be discreet because if I continue like this I will loose my value and beauty as a woman and worst loose my salvation. Thank you for the post.

candy skhosana said...

Dear mrs Tania
We really find a lot miss Indiscreet in the work of God; like for an example you tell someone you trust your wikness or your problem after that you everyone talking about it. The Bible says in the book of Mathew 18:15 "if your brother or sister sins go and point out their fault just between the two of you." if you corrected someone one day or you helped someone you don't need to tell everyone instead you need to be discreet about it.
Thank you
God bless

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