Mom, have you been investing in the relationship with your son?

Hi dear, how are you? I hope you’re all doing well!

Together we are learning to be better mothers and daughters. These posts are not only for mothers but also for daughters; and also for spiritual mothers. Because even before you become a mother, you are a daughter, aren’t you? We cannot expect perfection in relationships, but we should give ourselves and put ourselves in the other person’s place every day. Well, when we speak of relationships, you might not stop to think but answer quickly: I have a good relationship with my children. Do you really? I have perceived many mothers only know how to deal with their children when they’re little because they can handle them. However once they grow up this relationship doesn’t remain the same. Why? Because you developed this relationship towards a puppet and not a disciple; often not knowing how to make use of the power of influence.

Dictionaries define relationship as “fellowship, get involved with someone to the point of sharing experiences, and learn from the other.” So relationship means the emotional connection or friendship between people who come together with the same goals and interests. Every kind of relationship involves living, communication and attitudes that must be reciprocal. A good relationship develops when there is trust, empathy, respect and harmony between the people involved. That’s why you mother and child should practice these values ​​in order that your relationship is healthy.

So when one of the parties does not develop the attributes needed for a good relationship, the relationship becomes difficult. The way a person relates to others, in personal life, is part of the interpersonal relationship. The interpersonal relationship is the relationship developed between two or more people and how the communication between them is establish.

In the spiritual life is not different, the relationship exists to bring the mothers to her children, until it becomes an intimate relationship. Relationship is the way which all true Christians must walk. This is a principle that we should take very seriously, because without relationship we will never know our children, or our disciples.

The apostle Paul said: “Imitate me, just as I also imitate Christ.” (I Corinthians 11: 1). Ephesians 5: 1 says: “Therefore be imitators of God as dear children.” Paul's life and testimony were an example to all and it could be imitated by Christians because he was an imitator of Christ.

Like Paul we must have a life of transparency, and be an example. Thus, the disciples will not have any fear to have a trustable relationship. Remember that words can convince, but testimony draws crowds of people. If we don’t have relationship, communion, intimacy, we will not succeed either as biological mothers or as spiritual mothers.

Leave your comment, be participative here on the blog, and develop genuine relationships. Sweet kisses; until next week!

Catia Rubim