Series Strong Woman 14 – Do not take it personal

We cannot control people’s thoughts and actions, just our reactions towards them. Giving so much importance to what is thought or said about you, can harm you. Remember that what others say or think of you, do not project or define your own reality.

I do not mean that we must not listen to positive advice (even though sometimes it hurts) from the people who love us and want the best for us; we’re talking about taking everything personal, thinking in a negative way. Sometimes the person has good intention of helping but you think the opposite.

Taking things personal gives the others power that they should not have.

^·                For instance, if someone makes a comment, you already think that the person said it because she wants to attack or target you. This will make you be defensive and even can get angry with the person who wasn’t thinking about you when she made that comment.

^·                To not take it personal also means to not hurt yourself with what others say. This can help you to not react in a negative way immediately.

^·                If something happens, you can think that you are responsible in any way because, even though indirectly, you always get involved in those situations; and this is not intelligent. Sometimes people have wrong attitudes because they decided it, you are not responsible for it and you couldn’t have avoid it.

Taking everything personal shows that you are an insecure person, sensitive and consequently that makes you weak. Notice that everything begins in your mind. When you learn to think in a different way, everything begins to change. Your vision opens, your attitudes change, you look at yourself in a different way and you become a strong woman inside.

Next Friday, we will have the last article of this series, do not miss it!