Christian Dating Series 6 – Sex before marriage

“I’m Christian, but my boyfriend is not, he wants to have sex with me, but I know that isn’t pleasing to God. How should I act in this situation?

Have you noticed that the world is upside down? Everything that is against the Word of God, the world is for. The values, responsibilities, commitment don’t seem to be appreciated anymore, for

the world nothing is a sin anymore. People can do whatever they want, guilt-free. Because everyone is who they are, and free to be how they want to be, so they think. But there is a small detail; each one is also responsible for the consequences of their actions.

In the past, virginity was valued for women just as much as for men; in fact many times it was required for marriage. When a young woman lost her virginity before marriage it was considered a shame, now it’s the opposite. Fifteen year old girls who are still virgins are the laughing stock of their friends now a day, their considered old-fashioned. What before was an honor, today it’s a shame, everything is backwards.

But let’s see what God has to say in regards to all of this? God’s plan is for us to save ourselves for our wedding day, for that special person who will be our husband. How many girls gave themselves to their boyfriends thinking that he was the man of their dreams and then it just didn’t work out and a bitter regret fills them? Plus, if you’ve already had sex before your honeymoon, what’s the point of your wedding night? If both of you already gave yourselves to each other, the magic is gone.

The idea that you need to have sexual relations before getting married to see if both of you will “get along in bed” is diabolic, because those who get married for love and have the presence of God, will surely be happy in their martial life, it simply couldn’t be any other way. To maintain yourself pure is God’s will, the woman should value herself and not give herself to numerous men to then decide who she will marry.

The wages for sin is death, spiritual death and in some cases even physical, simply verify it with the amount of people infected with AIDS and other sexually transmitted diseases, the numbers are terrifying. When you give yourself to your husband and vice-versa, you are only his and he is only yours, there is no risk or danger and God is pleased in that.

Let’s see what 1Corinthians 6:17-20 says:

“But whoever is united with the Lord is one with him in spirit. Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a person commits are outside the body, but whoever sins sexually, sins against their own body. Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your bodies.”

Be obedient to the Word of God, if you put God before your boyfriend, He will honor you, your boyfriend has no right to impede you from obeying the Word of God, and he should respect your faith, and if he doesn’t respect you, why be with someone who doesn’t?

Think things carefully before marrying someone who isn’t converted. Your chances of being unhappy and suffering in the long run are very high; you can see that now in your dating stage even before getting married.

Be smart and spiritual above all!